This isn’t peewee football.
Take advantage
There are instances in life where a hand is outstretched willingly. If you ever watch parents trying to get a baby to take their first few steps, you might think they needed a walking companion. The baby casually strolls away for a step or two one day and the race begins. The toddler Olympics include carbon-dating the exact moment a baby accidently removes their hand from whatever is helping them wobble upright and turn to take a step. It looks completely accidental. As soon as that occurs and the screaming dissipates, the parental units try to force a repeat. It is a little like watching a sports team try to repeat the exact actions they took to score a touchdown that seemed impossible. Those outstretched hands and arms are there to help the toddler get back up over and over for the replay. The replay is actually the way the baby’s body builds up the muscles needed to walk so the repetition has a meaning. It just isn’t as satisfying to watch.
Get off the Bench
I am admittedly a late bloomer. I got used to hanging back since I was not the first child. You can observe enough to learn that it isn’t always a good idea to jump into a boxing ring. But life is no fun sitting on the bench either. At some point, your feet get antsy, and you are relatively sure you can play better than those you are watching. Even if you just got up to grab a cold drink and fell onto the field, you are in. The pressure is on to perform. This is great for obtaining experience. You have to start somewhere. If you want it to look like you meant to join the field, this is your chance. As for me, the late bloomer status gave me a feeling that I kinda knew what to do.
Party of One
We aren’t meant to go through life alone. The sheer number of humans all around us provide a basis for that fact. You will always catch onto the rules of the game if you have a buddy. This means that you can improve your life through reading, taking classes, randomly finding interesting stuff on the web, seeking guidance from a trusted authority or talking over issues with a good friend. I have invested interest in courses that raised my self-awareness. I have sought out more knowledgeable colleagues to discuss subjects that made sense once I was able to understand them. Being able to coach myself through difficulties has increased my confidence and slowed my judgement trigger. Sometimes I can’t even find it.
Advice to the Lovelorn
This is my best advice. If you engage in learning how to self-coach or partner with a life coach, you will never regret it. Getting into your own mind early in life will give you an exponentially better life. You will love life faster. You will even appreciate the absurdities of life. It is almost like the tests you encounter will challenge you in such a way that you may look around for the cameras. If you need to discuss the pros of coaching, please reach out to any life coach. If you can’t find one to uncover satisfactory help, please feel free to contact me for a chance to talk. And if you can stump me, I might learn something.
Coaching seems mysterious at first. Maybe that’s because humans are mysterious.
