Disappearance can‘t be seen
Invisible stuff is hard to see. Even worse, it can be forgotten easily because there is no physical reminder. Time is the most common part of our lives that disappears. Minutes can’t be stopped or slowed. They continue to move forward whether they are beautiful or difficult. Probably because of the continuing nature of their existence, we just move on to the next one. It feels like there are always more. The continuous supply makes it feel as if the next one is just waiting for us. We think the resource is bottomless.
Life Disappears
Life gets busy. There is so much to do, see and experience that the mere mention of one more thing can attribute to overwhelm. In the discovery of the new, something can disappear. We wake up and realize that it is missing. With some time-juggling, lives can be full. And life should be full. There is no point to living at anything less than full tilt. You only get one shot. We aren’t taught to slow down enough as we speed up our lives to really enjoy the more it offers. But it is our time to do so. Literally, our time.
Self-Disappearance
Over the course of a life, people begin to experience self-loss. It is difficult to notice outwardly but it takes an outsize toll inside. When parts of our selves die along the way, there is the chance that we either don’t notice right away or we begin to normalize the loss. But remembering can be painful because it makes us face up to it. If the loss is a part of us that we miss, we might mourn it. Grief has stages but often results in a decision to move forward. If whatever disappeared in us can be recovered, there is a chance that restoration will bring life back. Examining any feelings or desires that fell away is a worthy activity. If something brought joy to you in the past, maybe returning to that part of you is your next step.
Don’t Let Go
In coaching sessions, I often remind folks to hold on. I love pausing more than any other activity. Stopping in that one moment allows for thought to slow down enough to observe. Time hasn’t stopped but our response has. The parts that are in our control permit an opening to bring back anything that has been lost. Recovery is a satisfying process. The best part of coaching is observing the creation of an even better system for life fulfillment. When we realize that we miss a part of ourselves, we are starting a discussion about recovery. The parts of ourselves that we are happy to forget can be packed away after examination. Their lessons have been learned. Moving on means shining all the light on those previously hidden corners where the good bits of us found a place to wait until we noticed they were missing. Hide and go seek isn’t just for kids.
Do you miss a part of yourself that is no longer visible? Do you feel time speeding by you? Can you actually slow down time enough to really enjoy it?
