Interested in What?
If you review the way you spend your day, you can see a pattern. Some tasks and events are required – school, work, eat, sleep – you get the drift. A portion of the rest of the time should be spent in choices that interest you. Think about what you are doing during the in between times. Are you scrolling, streaming, drinking, or engaging in something that stimulates you but doesn’t satisfy you? Think about opposite time users. Could you substitute cooking, reading, a hobby, praying, exercising or dancing in more nooks and crannies? If you substitute something that interests you, you may end up more satisfied with how you spent your time. If you start to feel satisfied with how you spend your time, you like your choices more. The upward spiral begins.
Interesting also
There is a chance that changing your interests may make you more interesting also. Not only to yourself, but to others. When you widen the circle of those who also use their time the same way, time does actually fly. Connections occur based on shared interests. Humans like connections. If you want to be more interesting, get more interested in something that raises your interest. It takes a little effort to start anything new, but there is nothing to lose when you don’t have much investment. But when you start to feel connected to someone, you begin to feel more energy and excitement when you see each other.
Not interested
Humans have funny ways of letting others know that we are not interested. Sometimes it’s the way we look or speak when certain subjects come up. If we are trying not to offend, we are more careful about how to convey our thoughts. If we are trying to keep a low-level connection to use in a future just-in-case scenario, the thought we convey may be very confusing. The less subtle version of this response is when we release our definitely not interested vibe. When there is no mistaking the message, the lack of padding creates those not-so-subtle feelings of rejection. There are even not interested vibes that are totally silent. The lack is very loud.
Painful Interest
A common self-talk line is a real put down. When our inner critique announces that we are not interesting, we slowly shrink. That guru who lives in our unconscious talk show can be very mean. When humans don’t think that they are interesting, they generally look for somewhere to be quiet so as not to bore anyone. It is remarkable how we tend to just believe our self-yakkers. It takes a lot of muscle to pull up reasons for creating evidence for the opposite thought. But if we have practiced the art of being interested in subjects that we didn’t have any prior experience with, we grow back into realizing that there is contrary confirmation faster. The sooner we dispense of any remark that is not interesting, the quicker we can get back to seeing what cool thing we can try out next.
Can you make a list of five things you just want to try? Are you interesting? Who do you find interesting?
