Nothing can be the correct size.
Measure whichever way you Want
One of the more confusing things to learn is how to measure. Not just because different countries have different methods but because things have multiple ways of physically being. When you add in trying to measure what you can’t see, the troubles mount up. You might want to determine the length of a piece of cloth. Or you might need to measure how many pebbles are needed to complete the landscaping. Or even worse, you might want to measure how much someone loves you. This is way worse than solving for x and y.
Measurements can be Flexible
It is best to first determine what really needs to be measured. Cloth measurements can be incorrect, and some can be cut away or more can be purchased. Pebbles can be spread out if there are not enough or more can be added. It is less clear what should be done when measuring feelings. They are slippery. If you picture your feelings as fish, you can better understand them. Fish are difficult to catch, are built to resist holding and can expire if not cared for. But they are delicious. Very big feelings can resemble whales and take over. Very small feelings can disappear when scooped up indiscriminately.
Create a Method
The best way to act when something doesn’t already exist is to become an inventor. Literally everything you see around you was invented. Nothing used to exist. One day, someone needed a bike. They found two old wheels and somehow hooked them together. When they ran out of hills to go down, they added places for feet to push the wheels to travel uphill. When they got tired of keeping their body suspended about the wheels, they strapped on a seat. Braking came into existence after crashing. And now we just go to the bike shop and pick out the shiniest one. Think of something you want to measure. The criteria are up to you. If it pertains to love, you may decide to choose past experiences, future possibilities or any random bar for comparison. But you have a way in mind.
Measure your own Love
There is a place to start without inventing anything with love. Check inside your own heart. The depth of self-love you have is hands-down the best place to begin. When love starts with you, you know exactly what it is, how it acts, what it feels like as it ebbs and flows and what happens when one of the wheels fall off. You can go into repair mode if you want. Or you can go to the bike shop and look for a shiny new one that better suits you. Maybe one with a basket. There is still no way to know if any of our standards work for each other but that doesn’t stop us from being experts on bike repair, how fast to ride or whether we are real racers. The best realization of this theory is the fact that there is no one size that fits all. No measurement is really the only right one. The lack allows for everyone to be right. That is progress.
Can you measure who loves you the most? Can you measure who you love the most? Were the same methods used to measure both?
