Resign to re-sign
If you have a difficult time saying goodbye or tend to linger in the doorway looking back at the room you are about to leave, you are not alone. We don’t discuss the importance of walking out unless there is something bad to place in the rearview mirror. But knowing when and how to leave is just as important as making an entrance. It can be a healthy choice and is repeated throughout life. It can be associated with failure, but it is really the first step in starting something brand new. Quitting is not always surrendering; sometimes it is a tactic to move to a different path.
Prepare to Resign
If you have been in the world of work for any length of time, you have had to resign. It can be fraught with emotion. We don’t like to tell anyone that we have something new to do because our tender hearts are rejecting those we have spent some time with. We value our time and even get to appreciate the quirks of those with whom we work. They might have had their faults but having to wonder why we put up with inferior colleagues says more about us than about them. We didn’t plan on just settling when we accepted the job. There is usually some preparation for resigning that involves keeping some secrets. Just in case. You know what I mean. You shouldn’t forget where you came from until you actually get to the new place. There is a measure of grace to leaving courageously.
Resignation Reminder
There is math in the leaving equation. Trying to determine whether staying in place and fighting to create a better reality is more powerful than starting over requires weighing both alternatives. Knowing which will provide the best result gets easier if you stand at the chalkboard and work it out. The brain will easily provide reasons to leave partners, circumstances, jobs and families that don’t provide enough satisfaction over time. But having a list of reasons implies that there is a sliver of hope that putting your desires aside will result in something better. Gently leaving has a lot to say about you. Making a plan, finding support and remaining positive is better fuel than just running away.
Going involves Arriving
Usually, the minor regrets in leaving are due to why the decision took so long to pursue. It is important to remember to consult that part of you that makes the best decisions. We think with our big brains, but we feel with our hearts. If there is any self-doubt, check to see which decision increases your heartbeats with excitement. When you stop to feel what is ahead, you can prepare yourself for what comes next. You may need to summon up all of your strength to leap, but it will probably feel great when you land. Leaving becomes a natural part of living when you incorporate it into your regular practice. When you get to the doorway, turn back and smile. That is always the best way to let everyone remember you.
Do you fear resigning? How do you want to be remembered when you leave? Have you ever regretted leaving?
