It’s not illegal
Get a moving violation
Relationships often are the hardest things to let go of. Humans state that they fall into love, but it isn’t quite the same climbing out of it. There is a sunk cost involved which creates an increased delay. Investments are difficult to walk away from. Once resources have been put into a relationship, there is a tendency to minimize the excuses for why it doesn’t meet expectations. The idea that another human will become that idealized version in our minds morphs into a reality that retains a little sliver of hope. Maybe just more time and effort will fix that connection. But probably not. Even when we change ourselves, that only allows another human to react and only if they want to. They might just see your change as an unwanted separation from them.
Rationalizations can lead to a leak of life that can feel like a little dripping loss. If it isn’t very noticeable, it is easier to wake up one day and feel dried up. Leaving a job, city or another human needs to be experienced on whatever level it occurs. Denying truth just delays finding a way to another side. The break will heal better if it gets the best care. Scars accumulate and eventually create stiffness. Do the first aid and restore movement quicker. All relationships are not designed to be endless. And they are not failures when they end. They might have been very successful until they weren’t. Fairy tale endings aren’t promised. It’s better to look for the lesson learned and let go of the conflict.
What does this feel like?
Option #1: Do you think others are better at letting go than you are?
Option #2: Can you change your hold on connections to benefit you?
Option #3: What can you do to build a better relationship?
That’s it. After you choose the option that best describes what you think about breakups, take a few minutes to describe why you chose that option and what action, if any, may come next.
