Your head and your heart are connected but separate. Usually this expanse can be measured in inches but sometimes seems much farther apart. The thoughts that come from your head may be based more on your experience and knowledge. Your heart based thoughts sound like emotions. Those measurements can seem miles apart.
Heart based thoughts have a reputation for weakness. Head based thoughts seem to have more value in the world. Too bad for both. We need them to work with both of them to be our full selves.
Clients who want coaching often demonstrate their wholeheartedness early in conversations. They feel deeply and talk about their emotions more than their decisions. It takes time to help them understand that their feelings are really just the offspring of their thoughts. They just moved south for warmth. Most people want to think of themselves as fully functioning self-aware individuals who handle the ups and downs of life. The qualities of being open and truthful are essential and should be supported with a commitment and willingness to examine all thoughts. Enthusiasm accelerates the joy of getting to know oneself better. There is no one better to know and love than our very own selves. The goal should be wholeheaded and wholehearted but that sounds funny because we don’t place a value of having a proper head.
Keeping track of thoughts is just the beginning of the process to identify the kind of thoughts you are producing. Journaling or noting thoughts and emotions early in the day starts to create clues to examine and investigate what is going on in our minds and souls. Key to the process is just the task; no judgement is helpful when you are making the daily list. Eventually, it is possible to determine when emotions take over and help you know yourself, branding that really works. The list can also identify when and how the negative thoughts crop up. Watching for repetition really zeroes in on what is happening. Always good intel.
Creating a habit that benefits you in the future takes faith. Muscles take weeks to appear in body building. Wounds take time to heal properly. You must first believe that you are worth the effort of examination. You must first try without seeing an immediate benefit. That can be difficult. I know that you are worth it. All it takes is the guts to do it for yourself.
What would show up most often in a daily list of your thoughts? Can you examine your own head and heart? Aren’t you wholeheaded and wholehearted?
