Hard to believe
Simply Absurd
Some humans are in the habit of limiting themselves. This routine starts early on, is very safe and makes it possible to meet achievable goals. Lots of business plans like the idea of achievable goals. They are just enough to keep everyone busy but not enough to result in a sad ending. Like fairy tales, happy endings meet our expectations. But it is also possible to use enough thought and planning to become ridiculously happy. Think about the happiest day of life so far. It might be a graduation day, wedding day or hearing about that winning lottery ticket. All great events to put a smile on our faces. Consider your relationships. If your relationship with money is not pleasant, there are adjustments to make to change it. If your relationship with your body is not healthy, you literally have it with you all of the time to work on it. If your relationship with your best friend is slipping, it’s time to get back on track. But what about the relationship you have with the most important person outside of yourself? The partner, spouse, parent or child experience is based on the actions of both players. We are complicit in its outcome. Before anything gets to the chronic stage, there are little bubbles that pop up around the edges. Escalation is the natural response if the heat stays in place. And the stuff that makes that simmer turn into a boil is usually low-level behaviors that aren’t addressed. Speaking loudly may be the first pass. Yelling is further down the line. Somewhere in there is a chance or two to address what is going on. Nip it in the bud. Think about exercise. If you miss a day, you don’t just give up. You go again. Try treating your relationships with a different criterion. Go for ridiculously satisfied. It might be the start of looking at all of your personal goals as the chance to be upward bound in many aspects. At the very least, you might really question those achievable goals.
What does really being satisfied feel like?
Option #1: Do you think others are thinking about your life goals?
Option #2: Can you change your relationship with you?
Option #3: What can you do to bargain your way to better goals?
That’s it. After you choose the option that best describes what relationships can level up, take a few minutes to describe why you chose that option and what action, if any, may come next.
