It’s just a little thing
Pass the peas please
Original families and early minders pass on indelible marks. These memories often affect personal behavior during holidays. The usual meet ups for food and friendship bring out deeply seated emotions. Leaning back into past motivators leads to similar results. It’s science. It’s easier for the brain to use what happened previously if it didn’t all blow up. Sometimes even when it did because it’s predictable. There are little threads that connect us to all of our life’s experiences. Some of these older beliefs are just like the vegetables that get passed at family dinners. Don’t get me wrong, I really like peas. But they might not be as sparkly as anything with delicious gravy or lots of butter. When any kind of motivator gets added as fuel, like alcohol or rivalries, the race to the finish line is on. Even an expected outcome is still an outcome. There is always the capability to change the future. Capacities can also expand at times. Consider reprogramming ahead of time. When you bring in the magic wand of wonder, it may be possible to see what changing the circumstances will bring. If you are able to shift away from what you think is actually expected to occur, something new will show up. And you might be encouraged to try a new veggie.
What did you bring?
Option #1: Do you think others are trying to create conflict?
Option #2: Can you change your mind ahead of time?
Option #3: What can you do to lower trauma?
That’s it. After you choose the option that best describes what little upsets might happen, take a few minutes to describe why you chose that option and what action, if any, may come next.
