Overindulgence sounds luxurious
I have been thinking a great deal about how I do things. Examining my own actions brings up all the feelings about all the ways I could be better. I wish it was as easy to examine all the things I do well but that is for another day. I do similar things in a similar manner. Perhaps I think I have chosen the best way to do things. Seeing ways that I overdo brings up a lot of negativity because it sounds too luxurious for little-old-me.
Indulgence may be the problem
Explaining actions as indulgent affords them a certain higher level of privilege and that does not meet the ideal I have set for myself in my little brain. Indulgence signifies extraordinary gratification and is not available to the masses. It’s too Real Housewives for me. Since it does not meet my self-written criteria of acceptability, it stinks of indulgence. Above my place.
Controlling doesn’t fix things
The mere idea of trying to stifle or control something of excess seems fruitless. And it doesn’t address the real reason behind the mollycoddling. If moderation is the adjustment needed, a change in action is required. There must be action plus a new thought. Although just improving the actual action would help, it would be temporary because the brain-fed habit doesn’t want to update the files. Thought work requires more intent.
Don’t regret
Catering to my thoughts and actions that result in overindulgence doesn’t bring the gratification of desire promised. When I have good thoughts about the way I act there is a better resolution. The good feelings reinforce the better habits and create more satisfaction. Fulfilling my own desires that meet my well-thought notions reduces the thought that indulging is practiced only for its own pleasure. It removes the aura of decadence and creates a normal flow. And ends regret. Regret is useless.
Where are you over indulgent? Starting the thought work needed to examine and change overly-accommodating actions will result in new methods that mean something to you. What thought can you attack today to see if you are overindulging?
