Secrets have value
Secrets have a PR problem. They are usually unseen and revealed to only a chosen few. In our society, hiding things is associated with a child’s game. Even the reason behind the secret is sometimes invisible. Secrets don’t remain silent when the details are splattered everywhere.
I’ve got a secret
We’ve all got secrets. I keep mine closely wrapped up inside of my personal vault. They are touchy pieces of information and can only be shared with those specially chosen for the honor. I hold my secrets inside because they are either sensitive in nature or nobody’s business, or both. Sharing is based on a need to know basis. A secret can affect you negatively if you don’t realize why it is locked behind a closed door. When it is closeted, it holds hands with shame.
Real secret keepers are valuable
I have met just a couple of super secret keepers in my life. They were able to keep my secrets in confidence because they had a genuine secret already in their own life. They are valuable confidantes in life. Trustworthy friends know when to keep their mouths closed. Those with keys to the vault are not the gossipy fiends that share the stuff that you felt shame over. Get rid of those people because they will never have your back.
Increasing your own vault
If you want to become a trusted person, act trustworthy. It takes a long, long time to gain someone’s trust and once lost, will never recover to the same level. But having that secret keeper in your life is worth the long hunt. They are worth the search. I want to be that person to a small group in my life because they are incredibly valuable to me. It goes both ways.
Good secrets can signify love. What secret can you share that will convey that feeling? Who can you share secrets with in your life? What happens when your secrets are exposed by those who cannot be trusted?
