Life is really ordinary.
Truth be Told
Really truthful stuff is hidden as if it is a secret. Secrets seem heart felt. But secrets have a way of getting out due to the lack of capacity for some folks to feel it necessary to keep them inside. Or maybe they just want to start some drama. I have never figured it out. After a personal secret is shared, it is difficult to trust that particular person. But they do impersonate great soap opera actors. There is some entertainment value in sharing something juicy. But we talk about liking the truth and what it provides to our lives. We say that being real is a great value. We expect our relationships will be maintained with the highest values. We even act incredibly offended when someone breaks this standard. Humans are incredible actors.
Rating Truth
The best way to increase your ability to determine whether something is true or not is to practice your thought process. You often understand when another human is bullshitting you. What they are saying may sound so pleasant, but the physical aspects don’t match. You might recognize that in facial features, tone of voice or the manner in which it is delivered. Your BS meter is well established at this point, but you might not want to believe it. This is due to that wonderful belief we have about how deliriously wonderful the humans we choose to surround us appear. Their beautiful lives are the first ones we compare ours to. These comparisons occur because we haven’t figured out what we want our lives to look like. We don’t have our own truth determined yet. We might be looking at everyone else, but the mirror needs to be turned toward us. That’s the only way we can rate ourselves.
Forget the Truth
Don’t complicate the truth. In self-coaching, when you are applying the basic question of “Is this true?” it must be dumbed completely down to avoid all of the attached thoughts. Sometimes, the best way to get really good at this is to repeat the question. Oftentimes, coaches will repeat a question to get a little closer to the truth. The wording doesn’t even have to change. This might be a surprise, but it is definitely the truth. To help yourself increase those self-coaching skills in this specific area, repeat the question over and over and over until you run out of answers. This would be a great journalling exercise. Start at the top of a clean page and write the statement you want to explore. Follow that up with filling every line with an answer to the truth probing. Keep on filling the page in until you run out of thoughts. Eventually you will think that you are done. And then another thought will come to you.
Truthfully Mine
As you use your journal to gather responses, you will notice that the truth meter question is inserting itself into your everyday mind. Even more often, you will easily find ways to wonder about the truth of what is being offered to you. Don’t giggle too much as you find this happening. Since usually this will show up on your face as a smile, you will look delightedly happy. This is just a benefit of being a person who likes to grab the truth in every situation. Although seeing the real truth will also make you feel like the whole world is lying continuously, resist getting jaded or cynical. You don’t have to pick up that new belief as you are sorting out your existing thoughts. You may notice that the journal practice will speed up your auto-answering in real life. Isn’t it great when a new habit becomes fuel for more progress without even trying?
Keep this question top of mind: Is this true? Is this really true? The repetition helps to get past the first easy answer that feels like the correct thing to say and helps get to the real truth.
