Who do you think you are
Many retorts we use sound fabulously insightful when they are spoken. When you don’t act in the spirit that others expect, they sometimes wonder who you think you are. Perhaps you have overstepped your place. How dare you.
Your thoughts define you
At the very least, who you think you are provides parameters. It gives you the chance to decide how to show up with others and try and control what they know about you. Although it is really a waste of time to try and control someone else’s thoughts, we continue to make bold attempts. But you know who you are. You know what the real you thinks about. That head of yours is full of you.
Boundaries make good neighbors
At times, we regulate what we let others see in order to help define their knowledge. We think that by carefully curating our social persona, others will think good thoughts about us. We don’t let others into the total goodness of who we are even though flaws make us unique. Our walls provide a barrier and decrease the amount of knowledge.
Walls have two sides
When we create a separation from others, we also end up decreasing the chances of letting some of them be known. Walls have a way of physically interrupting life. Boundaries between people may define where you start and but they also define where you stop. Living small lessens the chances of really being authentic.
Share the space between
Being close to someone else requires that we reduce the thoughts about who they are and open up to the secret of who they really are. Our secret selves are often the ones closest to everyone else. We just haven’t figured that out yet. Getting in closer decreases the boundary and doubles the space. Being who you think you are is a gift to someone else. Hiding it like a treasure means that not as many will enjoy it. And you don’t want the best of you to be on display later in a museum when it can be enjoyed today.
What will you be brave enough to share first? Can you open yourself up enough to let someone else see a new side of you that might help them to open up also? It just takes one person to start a revolution. Are you the one?
